Parents and educators are becoming increasingly aware of the dangers of unsupervised screen use, particularly in the context of adolescence. However, the issue extends beyond screens - it requires a deeper understanding of what children, and humans in general, truly need.

At our core, we all have a fundamental need to feel seen, heard, and understood. This is the foundation for healthy emotional and neurological development, especially in childhood. When a secure attachment figure, such as a parent, is unavailable, children naturally seek connection elsewhere - often turning to their peers. Yet, because peers are also navigating their own developmental challenges, they may not provide the stability and co-regulation a child requires.

Neuroscience research highlights the critical role of a parent’s attuned engagement in shaping a child’s brain, cultivating emotional resilience, and strengthening their sense of self. Through shared experiences, responsive interactions, and quality time, parents create a secure foundation that nurtures emotional regulation, social competence, and a deep sense of belonging.

Hattennoki’s V.O.I.C.E.S. is a hands-on framework to support personal growth and stronger relationships in everyday life. Centered around Voice, Open-mindedness, Inspiration beyond Information, Courage, Empathy, and Support, this initiative helps parents, caregivers, educators, and leaders build meaningful, compassionate connections with those around them.

Here are the first three V.O.I.C.E.S focus areas in action - simple, powerful ways to bring inclusion, co-regulation, and quality time into daily life:

💜 Inclusion cultivates belonging, connection, and respect. When individuals feel included, they can be their authentic selves, strengthening relationships, teamwork, and positivity while reducing loneliness and conflict. The best way to instill kindness and respect is through modeling.

💜 Co-regulation helps individuals manage emotions, behaviors, and physiological states with external support. It is essential for development, allowing children to rely on caregivers for soothing and guidance - whether it’s rocking a baby, offering comfort, or listening with patience. Over time, these experiences build self-regulation skills. Have you ever seen a teacher breathe deeply with an upset child? A parent kneel down and say, “I’m listening” during a tantrum? A partner reassure their loved one with, “You got this”? These moments of co-regulation shape emotional resilience. Since the prefrontal cortex - the brain’s center for self-regulation - continues developing into early adulthood, supportive social interactions are crucial for strengthening emotional and behavioral regulation.

💜 Quality time is the most valuable gift anyone especially a parent can give. Spending meaningful time strengthens bonds, boosts emotional well-being, cognitive growth, and enhances social development. In childhood, especially, it creates lasting memories and lays the foundation for a fulfilling adulthood. 

It is just as important to instill an understanding of inclusion across society, emphasize the irreplaceable role of parental presence, and advocate for co-regulation as it is to navigate the challenges of today’s digital landscape. More than ever, children need safe, caring, and informed adults - not just a friend or a service provider - to guide them through the complexities of growing up.

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